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Lose Weight for My Husband?
I made an awful mistake 4 1/2 years ago. My husband is slow when it comes to any change. I was 30 and needed to know my relationship with him was going somewhere. I gave him the utimatum and he gave me the ring---on one condition--that I get completely fit and trim. Mind you, I was around 165 and 5'5. Now we have a 2 year old and he is pressuring me to lose the baby weight. But I realize I don't want to do it for him. Maybe for me or for my daughter... In fact I feel like staying chubby just to spite him. He says he loves me but that love is not unconditional. I don't want to lose him but part of me will always wonder if he loves me for me. How can I fix this? Can it be fixed? I get the feeling that once I do lose the weight he'll find some other thing about me to hyper-focus on and critique. A marriage relationship is more complicated than "lose the weight" or "kick him to the curb". Any constructive advice on this matter is greatly appreciated.Thanks
Men are very visual. It's not an excuse, it's a fact. You agreed to his "condition" so don't hold it against him now. If you are happy with the way you are, then tell him so.
If not, then don't focus on who instigated the exercise, just do it! You'll feel better and have more energy to keep up with your two year old. Marriage is a big world of compromise. Ask him to work on something for you...maybe a special date once a week? That would be motivation for both of you. You could get dressed up and he could show you off.
As far as his love for you...is he there with you? Guys don't stay where they don't want to be. The question is, do you want to be with him. Maybe someone to talk to would help, councelors give an objective view to things. Was your mistake 4+ years ago marrying him, or trying to be someone you don't want to be? Or was your mistake not finding out why the state of your figure is so important to him. Maybe he has an underlying reason...a childhood memory, an insecurity, a need to feel like his whole life isn't out of his control or lost to the realities of parenthood.
There are going to be so many things in life you can't control...go with the things you can and you'll feel better. Decide what you want, and then let him know!
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